Aug 21 2007
WHAT IS LOVE…
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The headline of USA Today early this month carried the news of a milk truck driver, Charles Carl Roberts VI, who stormed a schoolhouse, tied up 10 children, and shot each one, 5 of them fatally. What drove this man to commit a dastardly act? After the shooting spree and before he committed suicide, he divulged that he was haunted by memories of past sins of child molestation. A suicide note revealed that he harbored bitterness over the death of a daughter about 3 years ago. Did he fail to understand that because of God’s love, there is no sin so terrible that cannot be forgiven, no pain that cannot be healed when placed before the Cross? Love has a bigger definition than our human minds can conceive or fathom. Love is an unconditional commitment towards imperfect people to seek their highest good which often requires sacrifice. So who says loving is easy? Love is not to be confused with feelings, for when we do, we will withhold it from people we don’t feel like loving. God therefore gives us the commandment to love one another. As we continue to study about love in 1 Corinthians 13, we get a closer look at what it’s all about: Love is not jealous (not envious). If we’re not careful, we could be feeding the green-eyed monster of jealousy or envy. The dangers are vicious. It can make us paranoid, suspicious and distrustful, and can lead to stupid, crazy, irrational acts. King Saul, jealous of David’s prowess, was afraid David would unseat him from his throne. Saul became obsessed with killing David and almost killed his own son Jonathan, who tried to come between them (Read 1 Samuel 18:6-9 and 1 Samuel 20:31-33). Let someone below you or at your level begin to succeed beyond you and be promoted above you and then see how you handle it. This is the test of jealousy. Jealousy enters even the noble area of ministry. It can be overcome, though, when we love Jesus more than anything. God-centeredness leads to kingdom mentality which will enable us to rejoice with others who may be reaping more success than we are, for as long as the gospel is advanced and Christ is glorified. When our eyes are on Jesus, we will not notice what others have that we don’t have. Love does not brag (not boastful). Bragging is drawing attention to self to offset insecurities. The more insecure we are, the greater our inclination to brag. Confidence and security in Christ will end all boasting. When our confidence is in Him, when we are secure in His love, our identity is based on His love. Being complete in Christ, there will be no room to be insecure. The next time we hear of other people’s laurels or good fortune, we need to suppress the temptation to impress or surpass, and instead encourage them. Then God Himself will lift us up at the right time. Love is not arrogant (not puffed up with pride). Arrogance is not compatible with love. Humility and love work together in harmony. Pride can be detected when a person easily gets hurt, withdraws as a result, does not listen, and reacts when corrected. Proud people won’t admit their need for love. It embarrasses them to seek help and they find it hard to confess they have sinned. This is why God is opposed to the proud (1 Peter 5:5-6). Love does not act unbecomingly (not rude). As Christians, we carry the Name of Christ. "But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you… And if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same” (Luke 6:27-28, 32-33). These are patterns of behavior that make Christians stand out. By our actions, the world should be able to tell whom we represent. We should not be rude because it is unloving. Love does not seek its own (not selfish or self-seeking). Christ showed us how to die to self by sacrificing His life for our sins, totally forgetting about Himself for the sake of our welfare and best interests. If we are able to love others by thinking of their needs and not our own, this is an offshoot of God’s love for us. It may be a risk you’re willing to take for someone else’s benefit. It may mean bringing your wife to a concert even if it isn’t your cup of tea because you want to make her happy “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love” (1 John 4:7-8). “In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God loved us, we also ought to love one another” (1 John 4:10-11). “We love because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19). There is no testimony or witnessing greater than the power of love. Have we allowed God’s love to touch our lives? Have we brought the Gospel closer to people’s hearts through love in action? If we each do our share, the tragic events of the Charles Carl Roberts VI killings will no longer happen |