Oct 13 2008
RebOunder
Image by Belén.- via Flickr
There’s a familiar relationship pattern among people who move quickly into a new romance after the old one dies (or, sometimes, while it’s still limping along). Sad and brokenhearted, such a person finds a kindly soul who’s willing to offer a comforting shoulder, or bed. The kindly soul offers support and relationship advice, believing that this will lead to healing, renewal, and love. And lo and behold, it does — but not with the kindly soul. Often, the person who once seemed a source of comfort now becomes just a reminder of old pain. A happy new life begins — with a happy new partner, someone who wasn’t around for any of the bad old stuff. If you’re fresh from a breakup, you can recognize this pattern for what it is, and choose to get your comfort from people who don’t want long-term love. If you’re tempted to play the role of the kindly soul, take two steps back and give the rebounder time and space to heal before expressing your interest.
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