My only Hope

The Secrets of Real Joy Part VIII

ARRESTING THE ROBBERS OF OUR JOY IN THE LORD

People turn to so many things in the hope of finding happiness. But joy is oftentimes elusive because they are seeking in the wrong places. Blaise Pascal said, “In every man’s heart is a God-shaped vacuum that only God can fill.” Joy is found, not in pleasure, money or possessions, position or prestige, power and fame, but in the Lord Jesus Christ alone. Thus Paul said, “Rejoice in the Lord always…!” (Philippians 4:4).

Christians should be the happiest people on earth, yet not all Christians are happy 100% of the time. That’s because we have allowed many things to rob us of our joy in the Lord. Here are a few joy robbers and how to arrest them:

Conflicts in relationships. Since conflicts are inevitable, we need to learn how to neutralize this threat to our relationships. We should arrest them, and the way to do that is to be gentle. To be gentle means to be caring, kind and patient, to choose not to be harsh, angry, grumpy or irritable. Between being gentle and being easily angered, we are more inclined towards the latter. Hence, we need to practice the presence of God to develop gentleness. “Let your forbearing spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near” (Philippians 4:5). There may be provocation, but when we know that the Lord is near, we will learn to behave and henceforth avoid conflict.

Concerns over circumstances. When we focus too much on the problems of life, we become anxious. According to Vance Havner, “Worry, like sitting on a rocking chair, will give you something to do, but won’t get you anywhere.” Ulcer is what we get for making mountains out of mole hills. Of our worries, based on a survey, 40% are about things that will never happen; 30% are about things about the past that can’t be changed; 12% are about other people’s criticisms, mostly untrue; 10% is about health, which gets worse with stress; and only 8% are about real problems that need to be faced.

Paul’s advice to arrest this joy robber is to be prayerful. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” (Philippians 4:6). Not only do we need to pray, we need to do so with thanksgiving, trusting God for His solutions. And His promised Word is: “And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).

Negative thinking. We usually catch ourselves dwelling on negative thoughts when we grumble or complain. Always looking at the bad side distorts everything altogether. If we think negatively about the Philippines and we mostly complain about our government, how can we develop love for our country? The only way to arrest this problem is to be positive. “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8). Having a positive mind and attitude can give one tremendous joy.

Disobedience. When we violate God’s holiness through disobedience, a certain restlessness develops within us, for we know there are consequences to sin. Hence, we must be obedient. “The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things; and the God of peace shall be with you” (Philippians 4:9). Jesus Christ modeled for us a life of obedience. He was obedient to His earthly parents (Luke 2:51). He was likewise obedient to His Heavenly Father and fulfilled His mission on earth (John 17:4).

God commanded husbands to love their wives, and wives to submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22-25). God knows that man’s greatest need is respect, and the woman’s, love. Disobedience to these commands starts the “crazy cycle” – husband acts without love towards the wife, wife reacts by treating husband without respect, the husband then reacts to the wife’s disrespect by giving her an unloving treatment. And the whole cycle continues. But if the wife feels loved by the husband, she will readily submit to her husband. Hence, obedience is the way to break the pattern.

True happiness can be found in Jesus alone. What we need to ask ourselves is: Are we in the Lord? If we are not sure, we can turn to Jesus, admit that we are sinners, ask for forgiveness, repent, and receive Jesus into our lives as our personal Savior and Lord.

There is joy in salvation and the Holy Spirit helps us bear more of its fruit, however, there are also joy robbers. We have learned previously about a number of them - people, circumstances, worry and fear. Added to this list are conflict and self-centeredness.

Conflict and self-centeredness are inter-related. Self-centeredness triggers conflicts, and the root of it all is PRIDE.  For these thieves of joy to be eliminated, the solution is HUMILITY. It can be said, therefore, that JOY IS A BY-PRODUCT OF HUMILITY.

Philippians 2:1-11 says: “If therefore there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore, also God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those who are in heaven, and on earth, and under the earth, and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” How can this passage be applied in relation to the thieves of joy of conflict and self-centeredness?

CONFLICT. We are imperfect individuals, differing from one another in views, personalities and character. It is therefore but normal to have conflicts in human relationships. Conflict arises even among mature Christians. We may not expect uniformity, but we can preserve unity in the body. Although we may disagree about certain things, we can agree to remain in harmony with one another through the fellowship that binds us together by virtue of our identity in Christ.

The devil is the culprit of divisions and discord. When we have something against someone, what do we tend to do? We talk to other people about it. But issues need to be ironed out between the two conflicting parties. Talking about them with people who are not part of the problem or solution is plain and simple gossip. Satan uses the strategy of malicious gossip to destroy relationships and widen rifts. How many friendships have been destroyed by gossip? If we’re not careful, we may encourage it through passive listening, or we may actively participate by adding fuel to the fire. Without realizing it, we are being accomplices to the devil’s demolition job. When we refuse to join in the gossip fray, and instead urge the person who has issues to talk to the party concerned, it terminates the devil’s work.

Most people employ the strategy of fight or flight when involved in conflict. But fighting aggravates the situation while fleeing leaves the issues unresolved. There is a biblical way and that is, to move toward the party we are in conflict with. It means taking the initiative to iron out the differences with humility, with an admission of one’s part in the conflict.

SELF-CENTEREDNESS. Proud people are self-centered.  Self-centered people are usually miserable. Because they have this feeling of self-importance, they think they are important enough to be talked about all the time, and are therefore wary about what other people are saying behind their backs. They drop lines like: “I deserve to be happy.”  “This is my right.”  It’s all about I, me, mine. They think the world owes them and that it exists to serve them. Hence, when the world fails them, they are angry that they do not get to have a piece of joy.

From the time of birth, our selfish nature surfaces even without being taught. We seek attention, lay claim to everything we see as ours, throw tantrums when we don’t get the toy we want from the store, fight with playmates when a piece of candy is taken from us. When we’re older, we scramble to get the last vacant seat in the MRT train without giving way to the elderly. Bus drivers along EDSA load and unload in the middle of the road with no consideration for other motorists.

Jesus, though He is God, rich in majesty as King and Owner of everything, emptied Himself, became poor and took the form of man, in order to serve mankind in all humility. He sacrificed His life on the Cross for death to be conquered, and its sting removed. All these he did in obedience to the will of the Father. Clothing ourselves with humility is to have the same attitude and mindset as Christ’s. It means dying to self.  It is yielding our rights in favor of another. It is thinking less of self and more of others.

Christianity is not an abstract. It is living the example of Christ. When we have Christ in our hearts, joy is ours. We lose it only when we allow joy robbers in through conflict and self-centeredness. Through humility, they are barred from trespassing.

The Secrets of Real Joy
Ptr. Peter Tanchi / Sunday, June 29, 2008

At a time when soaring fuel and food prices and news of calamities are upon us, can people wake up in the morning and still say: “This is the day which the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24)? It’s hard to put on a sunny disposition when the weather is bad. It’s hard to wear a smile on your face when the outlook is gloomy.

But Paul exhorts in Philippians 4:4: “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice!” Can that be done in a world that seems to be spinning out of control? If that’s the way we view it, it’s a difficult thing to do. If, however, we believe that God is in control, it can be done.

If there’s one piece of advice we can pay heed to in a world full of problems that can put us down, it’s to BEWARE OF JOY ROBBERS!  What are these joy robbers?

1. NEGATIVE THINKING. As Clement Stone opines: “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” Chuck Swindoll submits: “…life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” There is mind power that controls behavior.  Positive thinking projects into positive disposition dictating positive behavior. Vice-versa, negative thinking projects into negative disposition dictating negative behavior.

2. PEOPLE. God allows people to disrupt or interrupt our lives. People’s quirks and peculiarities could spoil our fun.   Some people can be unnerving. How they affect us is up to us.  They can either get to us or we can remain unaffected. Whether we consider them friends or foes depends on whether or not we welcome and accept them as God’s tools to refine our rough edges for character development.

3. CIRCUMSTANCES. There are circumstances beyond our control. But when they come along, there is one thing we can control – ourselves. As Epictetus said, “It is not your problems that are bothering you. It is the way you are looking at them.”

God has a message in every circumstance that comes our way. He is always at work in and through them. We just have to dig into the heart and mind of God for us to have an overview of what’s going on. “When Christ is the center of your focus all else will come into proper perspective.” That’s a great piece of wisdom to live by. So, if we see disastrous global events as God’s way of turning people’s hearts to Himself, we can be still and know that He is God.

Real joy is independent of people or circumstances. Its Source is God. REAL JOY IS CENTERED ON CHRIST, who said, “These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full” (John 15:11).  Unless we’ve heard the bad news, we will never appreciate the good news. Joy comes from knowing that we were doomed for hell because of sin, but Jesus paid the wages of sin. There is joy in salvation found in Christ alone. Jesus appeals: “Until now you have asked for nothing in My name; ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full” (John 16:24). If we will only listen and turn to Christ, we will know that growing in love for God and others more than ourselves will increase our joy. Then we will realize that JOY is spelled J-JESUS, O-OTHERS, and Y-OU.
This became very real in Paul’s life after learning the secret:  THE SECRET OF REAL JOY IS A CHRIST-CENTERED MINDSET, having: (1) CONFIDENCE IN GOD’S GOODNESS; and (2) CONFIDENCE IN GOD’S POWER.

Paul shows us the divine way to pure joy, positive attitude and proper perspective. Paul’s letter exhorting the Philippian church to rejoice at all times was written while he was in prison. He did not allow the circumstance he was in to dampen his spirit, for his joy was in the Lord. In Paul’s turf, there was no room for joy robbers to steal what he had or frustrate the sharing of the Gospel.

Believers and unbelievers alike were encouraged because of the way Paul handled life’s crises. His eyes were on the Lord.  His confidence was therefore in the goodness and power of God. This confidence Paul had in God kept him from grumbling or questioning God, but instead made him cooperate with God’s plans. His adversity became God’s opportunity to bring others to salvation, and later be used to spark a spiritual revival in Philippi and eventually the whole of Europe.  Paul saw how God began this good work in the lives of Lydia, the slave girl and the jailer (Acts 16:12-34). He was therefore confident that He who opens the hearts of people and causes them to believe, will also transform and continue the work until completion when Jesus appears. Hence, Paul wrote: “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus” (Philippians 1:6).

If we are centered on Christ, our confidence will be in God’s goodness and power. In which case, joy robbers will not have any chance of breaking into our lives. And as we see the day of Christ approaching, we can work heartily at breaking the Good News to others in the middle of all the bad news. In any circumstance, in sickness or in health, in good or bad weather, in robust or glum economy, around people of all types, we can, like Paul, be joyful always.